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August 9, 2018

What being a mom teaches you about leadership — guest post

You won’t find better leaders than moms. After all, there’s no leadership boot camp quite like rearing a child or children! To affirm just how great moms are, we’ve picked the top 4 things that motherhood imparts about leadership below. The great news is that these are the kinds of qualities which would be valued in any social situation, including the professional workplace.

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Sheer and Utter Selflessness

People often stereotype leaders as bossy and self-interested types. Motherhood, though, is the very definition of selfless leading. As a mother, you’ll make decisions every day – probably every 10 minutes – to put the interests of your child before your own. The fourth trip to ballet for the week, cooking dinner every night… you’ll get used to doing things for everybody else before yourself.
This kind of 24/7 service can be exhausting and feels even more like work when it goes thankless – but the ability of a strong mom to persevere and serve in spite of these downsides is a true testament to their character as a selfless leader.

Faking it Till You Make It

Any woman who’s faced motherhood has asked herself the same question: but how will I do it? Maybe you still remember the feeling you had when you first found out you were pregnant – the feeling that kept reminding you just how much of a kid you were yourself, despite being about to usher in a new life to look after.
As your child grows up, though, and the need to “act like an adult” becomes ever more pressing, you’ll quickly get your head around one of the most essential of leadership skills: the ability to act in whichever way a particular situation demands, regardless of how you really feel – because this, flexibility, is what parenting demands.
From tough talks to those awkward PTA gatherings, you’ll have to wear a variety of roles each given day. This isn’t a bad thing! Moms just come to appreciate their own adaptability that much more, and to get to know their new talented selves that motherhood has afforded them.

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Seriously Prioritizing Self-Care

When you put others’ needs before your own daily, you’re bound to burn out. No leaders recognize this as quickly as moms do – after all, parenting is an unpaid full-time job with hours of unpredictable overtime: even billionaire CEOs get more hours off!
Moms are smart leaders because they appreciate the importance of self-care and how precious such time is! Whether it’s regular exercise breaks in the fresh air, or taking a lunch-break out to enjoy a bite to eat with fellow grown-up friends, moms appreciate that to best take care of their kids, they need to look after number one.

Neither You – or Your Child – Has to Be the “Best.”

When you take on such a massive a task as parenting a child, you commit to what’s essentially 17 or 18 years of preparing a human for the adult world. As a mom, you’re bound to want to ensure your kid the best future possible – however, being a leader means championing your flock when they win and when they lose.
Material things like sports trophies or academic prizes don’t prove your child’s achievements (and, by extension, your worth as a mom). The real rewards of your parenting journey are the measurable improvements that you help your child to make in their pursuits
At the most fundamental level, it’s about the kind of person your child becomes, not how good a competitor they are. Moms know that it’s impossible to completely control somebody – least of all a free-willed kid – so they extend all the assistance they can reasonably give and leave the rest up to their son or daughter to work out for themselves. Now that’s the stuff of a true leader.

Cloe Matheson is a freelance writer from Dunedin, New Zealand who grew up in a very tight-knit family. She is extremely close with her Mum – her greatest role model. You can discover more of Cloe’s work on Tumblr.

  • Posted 8.9.18 at 04:11 am by Roy Osing
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