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February 8, 2019

6 practical things to do if you’re bullied at work — guest post

Examples of bullying you’re more likely to find in the playground at a school rather than in a workplace, but it may surprise you to know that it can be just as common in a place of work.
It perhaps isn’t as evident when you compare it to times when name-calling in the classroom was visible for all to see, but it can still occur within a business.

However, the issue that many individuals find is that they feel the issues aren’t taken as seriously within a workplace environment, or at least not enough to come to a satisfying resolution.

Workplace bully

What is classed as workplace bullying?

Workplace bullying tends to be around being singled or having the feeling of being mistreated, but bullying can take up several forms and it can come from anyone. There are traits that are obvious when it comes to bullying but this list may not necessarily cover all the possible actions.

Behaviour that institutes bullying can include:

- Regular shouting directed at staff
- Unjustified criticism
- Promotion being blocked
- Casting particular individuals from discussion or activities
- Name-calling
- Starting rumours
- Setting up people with unrealistic deadlines and workload

Effects of bullying

Constant bullying can have extreme health issues both physically and mentally to a person and this can occur daily. Symptoms of bullying can include the following:

- Anxiety and stress
- Lack of sleep
- Suicidal thoughts
- Nausea
- High blood pressure
- Loss of confidence
- Forced to change jobs

How it affects your employer

As mentioned above, the effects of bullying can relate to causing major stress and by law, stress levels in the workplace should be taken just as seriously as health and safety hazards. It can have a major impact on employers in the following ways if employers don’t tackle it immediately:

- Low morale in the office
- Lose staff due to the time taken off
- Resources are lost from experienced members of staff
- Financial loss if matters are taken into the legal system

What you should do

So, what is it that you can do differently than normal methods to make sure the matter comes to the correct conclusion?

Here are a few tips to consider.

Deal with it yourself

Deal with it yourself

I always find that the best way to deal with any situation that’s a problem is to deal with it yourself. The famous quote of “if you want something done, do it yourself” couldn’t be truer.

In bullying, the first step to get it resolved is to discuss the matter in person with the bully. Gain the courage to approach them and have a civilized conversation about it. It might seem far-fetched, but some bullies don’t even realise they’re doing it until they’re actually confronted about it.

Go to their friend

If you don’t have the courage to speak to the bully directly, an alternative is to approach a work colleague close to them. Normally, the people that someone has in their friendship group tends to be a close reflection of the type of person they are but it’s also someone that they’re most likely to listen to.

Explain the situation to their close colleague and see if they can reach out to them. The friend may also see it as a sign of respect that you see them of high regard because you’ve approached them and trusted them with this information.

Talk to a bully specialist

An alternative to internal human resource departments is to speak to a bully organisation. Many people aren’t aware but there are several organisations that are set up specifically to tackle the issue of bullying in any environment.

They can provide all the support that you need including contact centre helplines, advice, private sessions and more. The fact you know their prime focus is dealing with the issue of bullying means your problem is likely to get rectified sooner.

Carry on

This tip can be dependent on the type of character that you are, but sometimes, the reason colleagues tend to bully is that they’ve realised you’re an easy target.

Ignore the bully

So, show that the bullying isn’t getting to you and carry on with how you work. If you show no reaction to what they’re doing, they can become easily bored and are more likely to tone it down — if the bullying revolves around physical, abusive or discriminate violence, however, you should alert a senior manager immediately.

It’s also a sign of great character building and creating a strong backbone for the future.

Do the opposite

A ‘twist’ that you could put to the bully to prevent them from doing it further is to act completely opposite to them. So, by acting nice or civilised to them and remaining completely calm throughout what they’re doing can make them out to look like a bad person to others.

Bullying is normally a form of showmanship where the person requires a crowd. By playing them at their own game, it provides them with less of an excuse to do it.

Go official

If all else fails and you feel as though the issue hasn’t been resolved, your last resort could be to file an official complaint.

Taking matters to legal action will be the option you can take if you have no further choice. Professionals such as dispute resolution lawyers are specialists in dealing with workplace bullying or similar matters. They’ll be able to take up a serious legal stance to stop the issue.

A workplace is somewhere we spend the majority of our time so we should learn to embrace and enjoy it. If you find you’re being bullied, take these steps in order to tackle it head-on rather than keeping in the background and dwelling on it.

Support is always there if you require it, it’s just about discussing it with the right people.

Jamie Costello is an aspiring writer who currently works freelance. During his time as a freelancer he’s worked alongside many businesses including those in Business Law. He feels it’s beneficial in broadening his writing skills. In his spare time he likes to play console games, read and swim.

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